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The Blog of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship
February 05, 2013
The Evilest App Ever
Do you secretly want to have sex with a bunch of your Facebook friends?
Too cowardly to have a real relationship, to actually know and be known?
Can’t be bothered to commit to love and care for someone?
Trying to blow off the relationship (or marriage) you’re in?
You just need Bang with Friends, a new Facebook app. I found out about it from this Fast Company article. You log into the app using Facebook and then pick Facebook friends with whom you’d like to have sex. If they join Bang and also pick you, you are both notified. And then, presumably, you have sex.
Never before has it been so easy to wreck your life. (Click it to tweet it.)
Never before has it been so easy to hurt your loved ones.
Never before has it been so easy to screw up your relationships. (Pun intended.)
Never before has it been so easy to load yourself up with so much baggage that you’ll never really be happy with your sex life.
These are now true for all of us. Apparently, three twentysomething men in California built the app to find casual sex and help others do the same. Word has been spreading quickly since it launched nine days ago, with 260,000 registered users in the first eight days (source).
One Facebook user wrote, “Sad state when an app for this exists, as well as when it is well received. This is evidence of the rapid decline in the marriage rate and marriage quality these days” (source).
In response, one of the app’s cofounders called such people “prudes.”
As of today, I am proudly and happily a prude. (Click it to tweet it.)
The currently unnamed founders say that they are just representing what happens in real life, that they want to take the awkwardness out of our sexuality.
Many things that happen in real life are not good. We’re sinful people; we act on desires without thinking about consequences down the road. Many actions, even ones we choose, are not harmless to ourselves or others, despite seeming that way.
Never before has a new technology so blatantly unleashed our sinfulness, our selfishness. (Click it to tweet it.) Hooking up does not respect the other person. Sexualizing a friendship doesn’t bring you closer together. It blows you both up. (Click it to tweet it.)
Consider how many quality friendships will be ruined because of just a connection made on Bang, not to mention an actual hook-up.
Think about the middle-schoolers and high-schoolers you know. Do you want your 13-year-old child or sibling banging their friends? Can you fathom the ways this app will affect their future dating relationships and their marriage?
InterVarsity staff work with hundreds of college students all over the U.S. We see firsthand the life-shattering effects of casual sex and sexual brokenness. Imagine how much this app will increase that pain on campus.
Reflect on how many married people, foolishly “checking it out,” will cheat on their spouse. They will have to deal with guilt, remorse, worry, and likely an eventual admission that they’ve broken a promise to the person who is closer to them than anyone else.
I wonder how many abortions this will lead to, how much heartache Bang with Friends will cause.
Promise the one you love that you’ll never join Bang. (Click it to tweet it.)
To voice your protest, post this:
Or post something similar on Facebook, tagging their page by typing @Facebook in your post.
Adam Jeske has served in Nicaragua, China, and South Africa and regularly contributes to Relevant. With his wife, Christine Jeske, he has written This Ordinary Adventure: Settling Down Without Settling. He blogs, tweets, and serves as the Associate Director of Communications for InterVarsity.