I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard these words from a wonderful college-aged woman in a dating relationship: “He’s just so lazy.” “He’s not motivated and doesn’t have any goals.” “I’m just not sure I respect him.”
My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years, and she still remembers vividly the way I pursued her in the beginning. I believe she’ll remember it forever, not because it was extraordinary or unique, but because it was strategic.
Since I graduated from college three years ago, I’ve been a bridesmaid four times, kept two wedding guest books, and read Scripture in seven different ceremonies, and that’s just the list of weddings I’ve participated in.
I’ve met more than my share of singles who are sitting around, waiting for their soul mate—as though one day, there will be a magical knock on the door and “poof,” their soul mate will be standing on the other side. But I think this philosophy of a “soul mate” has done far more harm than good in our society.